“Actions are Truth”
Sure Dolph Lundgren is a little off topic – but I think we could all agree he needs the love 
and we could use the laugh.
That was my zen moment today – I happened to write it in a chat to a friend I was discussing some sensitive matters with… Actions are truth. It’s something basic about my mode of evaluation. I think we all could benefit from taking a moment to examine the relationships closest to us, particularly where there is confusion or uncertainty, in terms of behavior. Love is as much, if not more, about what you DO to those you care about than what you say and how you feel.
Seriously! if your in a pickle in a relationship whether it be romantic, familial, friendship or anything in between – when words are lacking or failing – look at what they do. Words can be confusing and many times are meaningless but actions are typically much more telling. If someone talks with resolve but acts without conviction you can be relatively certain of their true nature is.
So how is this knowledge useful – how do I integrate it into my actions such that the lesson is rendered useful?I believe I’ve mentioned before that I believe a lesson learned that is not integrated into action is useless. People that know me know that a big part of who I am draws a great deal of satisfaction out of developing important people in my life in meaningful ways. Recently – in line with that passion – I’ve been developing ways of qualifying those areas that require attention for development and those that are of a lower priority within those individuals. So here’s how I’m using this lesson. Basically my rule is – if the result at the end of your days is you having done things that are not in line with who you are and/or want to be (as defined by you) then those behaviors are something worthy of attention. If you find yourself completely unaware why you perform these behaviors you do not condone cognitively – the phenomenon ought to be analyzed. There’s nothing quite so dangerous as a person who’s actions are not ruled by their own reasoning – to themselves and those around them.
